The third in two

Seeing as I have many friends who are currently in a relationship there have been many times (too many ,actually) when circumstances have forced me to be the only other person with the “couple” which has lead to my existence as the qutessential “kabab mein haddi”. These instances have actually taught me so much that I would like to share it with the 3 (to liberal an estimate????) people who must be reading this.
1) 5 minutes of complete pindrop silence does not qualify as an awkward silence, even though it must be feeling like some one literally making the seconds hand on your wristwatch go slower than 7p.m. traffic at iit powai. And it is eventually YOUR responsibility as the third person to find something which all three of you’ll can talk about not the friend you have in common as I have found out to my own chagrin more times than I would like it. This has however improved my conversational skills.
2) You know that about 4-5 feet is the right amount of distance to keep between yourself and the “in love twosome”,ILT, shall we call them. If due to various reasons that is not possible 2 do so ,there is always the option of walking behind them ,try to avoid walking in front of them , cause I have found it to be difficult to ward off the impulse to look back at the most inopportune time.
3) When you are with ILT’s ,take the time to find out what your school friend is upto, if your niece has started talking, take the time ,burn a hole in your pocket or more appropriately your parents pocket if they are paying your mobile bill, n call everyone you know, cause its an incredible polite excuse to politely give them some alone time and something, for you to do rather than sit throuh another awkward silence.
4) You tend to develop invisible blinders which prevent you from seeing anything going on, on any side but the front.
5) You will probably go to hell for lying so much for your friend, or will cause your friend’s mother to wonder a lot what their child is doing meeting you so mannnny times.
6) You will learn how to not interfere and at the same time take your friend’s side
7) You will feel happy for your friend who gets the only jacket in the rains, even though you are soaked to the skin, cause ,she gets to share it with him.
8) You will reject every invitation of prolonging your stay, even before the menacing glances from your friend make an appearance.
And finally even though the situation will only reaffirm your single status, you will keep aside that thought and bear another awkward silence with a smile on your face

Beginning of the end???

I know that everything in life is supposed to end. I’m not a naïve little girl who thinks that things are gonna remain the same way they currently are. But still that doesn’t anyhow lessen the intensity of my desire for them remaining the same way they are!!
I am a person who is generally averse to change (I can admit that) so when a friend is gonna leave my group of friends, who have been a source of humour, understanding and general comfort (the kind you get when you sleep with your blanket on your own bed after along time) in the toughest of times, no one can blame you for getting a bit sentimental and wishing for things to just stay the way they are. Because you just know at the back of your mind, it is the beginning of the end. The end you dread, the end which signals the heralding of words you were shielded from for so many years ; Responsibility, Job, Independence etc etc and a general upheaval from your current life. I know that’s life, but still that doesn’t lessen my need for things to stay the way they are!!!
Sometimes and just some times you manage to find a bunch who can laugh at Mithun the way you do or be as laidback as you would be on a lazy Sunday afternoon or be as shameless as you are when you are bargaining or actually sing along your stupid songs or actually notice something really small and insignificant which no one else can, and when you do you don’t wanna let go. I know that only once I let go of this bunch of people will I get to meet another bunch of people just like them or even better, but still that doesn’t make the letting go any easier!!!
I know that in life, hard times come and bad days just seem to pile on at the most inopportune of times but just knowing that doesn’t make it easier to get though those alone. I look for them,I seek them when I need them and more often than not I can effectively rely on them to cheer me up. Just knowing that that’s not gonna happen my entire life doesn’t make me seek them less often!
Its like a chapter of my life is slowly coming to an end , and the only way to go is ahead, so I am eager ,I am excited to see what lies ahead , but still I cant get this feeling out of my head ,this feeling that things will never be this good agin. So the optimist in me says that maybe, just maybe they might be better.
So here’s to those memories, of those fantastic times we shared (trying hard not to make it sound like an obituary, but I know it kinda is). Cause even though things will change the memories wont.

Why I love movies!

I’m generally an outgoing girl,but the fear of public speaking has been pretty ingrained in me since I made this stupid mistake in 1 school play(I was this Shatrugan sinha look alike thingy n I had 2 say “Abey Khamosssshhh” but I messed it up somehow). So when my friends were organizing this personality contest in our college, I in my “overcome my fears” mode signed up for it. (I also killed a rat in that mode, but that’s another story). Now this thing had a talent round,and I am the self professed “non talent”person (if there’s such a thing) . I cant dance (except 5 steps in cyclic pattern),I can’t sing(people would run away ,and on occasion actually have), I cant draw (my sister finished all my drawing books) and nor am I good at any martial art or anything like that. So ,just as I was contemplating backing out I decided to write something. And so I decided to write about something that I love: movies. And I just read out what I had written. it turned out pretty great, with unknown people coming up and telling that they liked it, and that was pretty great. so here it is;
I love it when the hero always gets the heroine in the end
I love it when in a horror movie,the damsel in distress always runs inside the house to a dead end instead of running outside.
I love it when a hero on getting thrown out of the house can earn a living only by doing construction work when he might as well have been graduated form Harvard
I love it when blood can defy all elemental laws of physics and actually go up a tube from three different t ubes during blood transfusion
I love it when Dev Anand tilts his head and raises his hand
I love it when Jeetendra and Dharmendra cn come running into a room wearing a white shirt and white pants so tight you’d think they were stitched by placing the cloth on them, and say “Maa main BA pass ho gaya”
I love it when a heroine sings a song her voice gains sterosonic abilities enabling it to travel miles to reach the hero’s ears
I love silly giggling in the ackground in the weddings of Barjatiya movies.
I love the fact that Nirupa Roy can bring up her family by stitching clothes on a rickety old Singer sewing machine
I lobe SRK and Kajol in those sarson ke keht
I love the fact that even though I’ve seen Lagaan more then 25 times I still cheer fro each ball and wait with abated breath if Bhuvan hits a six on the last ball. Ditto fro Aamir in JJWS.
I love the moment in which Raju guide tells Rosy against that heavenly sunset
“Mere sukh ab tere,tere dukh ab mere”.
I love it when Hrithik practices sword fighting in his dhoti
I love it when Aamir says “Aap to antaryami ho,gyaani ho,balki aap to purush hi nahi…..mahapurush ho”.
I love it when SRK says Kkkkkiran
I love it when Salman and Madhuri do that ridiculous dance and manage not wake up anyone in HAHK, something which seems so impossible for someone like me who lives in mumbai
I love the fact that even Himesh reshammiya can have a hit movieI love the scene in which Preity Zinta asks Aamir Khan what he saw when he closed his eyes during the opera in DCH

But most of all I love movies cause in those 3 hrs you get to escape your world and get into this colourful fantastic one with happy endings.